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Jack Perconte

Being the Best You - Parent or Coach

Things coaches can help parents with, if not themselves.

Of all the things I hear from parents, these top the list. Suggestions to try when you hear these common concerns:

 

  1. “He never wants to practice at home.” – First, don’t use the word practice, substitute “play.” it has a better connotation for kids. Second, do it with them but don’t coach much, just “play.” Third, find ways of making it fun, which usually means challenge and competition.

 

  1. “I just want her to have fun.” – Fine, but then do not nag when they do not do well or practice as much as you want them too.

 

  1. “He won’t listen to me.” – Learn to say things in a matter of fact tone instead of with emotion. Describe what they do, not them as doing it. Better to say “That was not correct” instead of “Why don’t you do what I tell you?”

 

  1. “My daughter does great in practice, but she can’t seem to do it in the games.” Keep emphasizing that it will come when they keep working on it and stay positive themselves. Remind them that you will always believe in them and you always enjoy watching them play no matter the outcome.

 

  1. “He gets so down on himself.” – Keep feeding them how-to knowledge and ways of self-correcting mistakes. In time they will feel more in control when things go south and stop beating themselves up when they have a process to overcome.