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Jack Perconte

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Sports coaching tips of the day

On your team, you will have some players who are all in, some semi-in, and a few not interested, when it comes to listening and trying the things you want them to do. How you deal with that third group is key to having and enjoyable coaching experience.


Of course, the first of those make coaching enjoyable. The second group provide a little

challenge, but it’s that third group that can drive you nuts. They either are only playing because their parents wanted them to, or they only listen to what their parents or another coach says, and tune everyone else out.


What to do?


  • Embrace the challenge because that is what competition is all about. It’s not the same as playing the game, but you are still competing to be the best coach you can be.
  • Be patient, it takes time to win over some. Do not force your ideas on them and do not give the “Do you want to play?” speech.
  • Greet them every day by name, and never give them the indication they annoy you or can intimidate you. They are used to getting that reaction form adults and it will impress them if you don’t give the same reaction.
  • Look online or into your past for stories of successful players who had bad attitudes as young athletes but who turned it around and excelled by becoming very coachable.
  • Never withhold constructive advice even when they appear disinterested.
  • Praise them when earned, and especially in front of their parents.
  • Bring your enthusiasm everyday – it’s so contagious that even the hard to reach will notice and follow suit eventually.
  • Do not say things like, “You have to do it this way” or “You will never be any good doing it like that.” Instead, give them options like, “99 percent of all successful players do it this way,” and “This worked for me, you may want to give it a try.”


Stay the course, it’s a remarkable achievement to see an attitude-changed player.