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Jack Perconte

Turning the Overly High Expectation Tidal Wave

Many parents expect so much and too much from their athlete. Two strategies you must use more than in the past. These tactics may ease their expectations and the pressure kids feel. Mind, you, I said may.
1. Give parents credit for standout child behavior, skillset, and game acumen. I can almost always find some of that, even with kids that appear unhappy to be there. Just as athletes like to hear praise, parents do too. It is good coaching practice to say something positive that gives parents credit for their kids’ behavior or play. “You have done an awesome job; your son’s eyes are always on me, when I speak,” is an example of praising the parent. The best thing is they will relay that observation back to their child, making both feel good.
2. Praise kids in front of their parents. Like above, when coaches see positive actions and improvement from players, they should relay that on to mom and dad. Many parents wonder how their child does and praising kids in front of their parents is a good way of easing that speculation.
Over time, when they see how positive I am and how their child reacts positively to that, all feel better and they may change too.